May 4, 2009 at 1:23 pmAbout losers and the phenomenon of losers
There is such a breed of people, the meaning of which is to prevent others from achieving anything .
This breed has long been bred in schools and in labor collectives. Corroded the ability to ask questions, question the words of authorities, to defend their point of view, to take the initiative.
Professional hierarchy was replaced by age, company, clan. Someone who is older, someone whose child, someone with whom in a smoking room pushes or drinks in a sauna.
And how teams sabotage the work of talented newcomers! Especially if it is a leader who is younger than his subordinates.
“What if he gets it? But I, it turned out, could not? It turns out that I, so smart, give way to this upstart? ”
The loser, perhaps, understands that at the time he found himself in such a place due to his own laziness, indifference, weak-willedness or lack of professionalism.
Understands, but is afraid to admit to this, even to himself. Another loser is dependent on the assessment of others (real or apparent), and therefore the success of others is doubly painful for him, because it clearly demonstrates why this happened.
Losing is a steady pathological condition. Instead of changing himself somehow, the loser will seek to restore a comfortable picture of the world.
The easiest way is to sabotage or denigrate the activity of a person whose success can show what the loser is really worth.
A worm of envy, jealousy for other people's achievements sits deep in people. He is in almost every one of us, not excluding the author of these lines.
But losers allow this worm to significantly influence their actions.
These people themselves have created little, and most of them are a walking lump of complexes. And therefore, they do not miss the opportunity to “confirm” the vainness of their existence in an accessible way.
For example, a person decided to honestly earn money with his mind. I wrote a program and began to sell it. To sell something, you first need to tell people about it.
A man took, and wrote about his program, say, on some forum or on “Habr”. And openly, and not doing "hidden marketing".
And then a smelly losier runs up:
In order to be superior to others, there are two ways. You can rise yourself, or you can humiliate another.
The first path involves work, creation, overcoming obstacles. Including yelling, sabotage and the "minuses" of the loser.
The second is a cheap way to feel “no worse” than someone. To humiliate an arrogant person, to finely spoil - the only opportunity a loser can assert himself.
It is very likely that losers will also comment. As usual, they don’t finish to the end - they rush as soon as possible to make their epic vyser. Let's see how many will be outraged by the word "loser."
By the way, I also do not like "Americanisms", but there is no adequate replacement for the word "loser" in Russian. The word "loser" does not fit - loserism has nothing to do with luck.
Except for the main setback in their life. They were not lucky with those who raised them.
Step through the losers. Put in place. If you are an employer, do not let them go into herds and poison more active employees.
In fairness, I must note the opposite phenomenon. A lot of gangsters from the 90s who solved competition issues with a pistol later explained their claims to be “envy of a successful person”. Especially a lot of these in the raw materials and construction industries.
A very good link to the topic came up in the comments : www.kulichki.com/vv/pesni/sideli-pili-vraznoboj-maderu.html
This breed has long been bred in schools and in labor collectives. Corroded the ability to ask questions, question the words of authorities, to defend their point of view, to take the initiative.
Professional hierarchy was replaced by age, company, clan. Someone who is older, someone whose child, someone with whom in a smoking room pushes or drinks in a sauna.
- Sit down, upstart! Let others answer.
- Uh, is that, here I am, yes, if only ...
- What, was the smartest one?
- Who are you? Yes, I worked here for 10 years!
- Do not talk with adults.
And how teams sabotage the work of talented newcomers! Especially if it is a leader who is younger than his subordinates.
“What if he gets it? But I, it turned out, could not? It turns out that I, so smart, give way to this upstart? ”
The loser, perhaps, understands that at the time he found himself in such a place due to his own laziness, indifference, weak-willedness or lack of professionalism.
Understands, but is afraid to admit to this, even to himself. Another loser is dependent on the assessment of others (real or apparent), and therefore the success of others is doubly painful for him, because it clearly demonstrates why this happened.
A comfortable picture of the world for him - "they were lucky, honestly did not earn such a way." And this picture collapses when a more talented, capable, active person appears.
Losing is a steady pathological condition. Instead of changing himself somehow, the loser will seek to restore a comfortable picture of the world.
The easiest way is to sabotage or denigrate the activity of a person whose success can show what the loser is really worth.
A worm of envy, jealousy for other people's achievements sits deep in people. He is in almost every one of us, not excluding the author of these lines.
But losers allow this worm to significantly influence their actions.
These people themselves have created little, and most of them are a walking lump of complexes. And therefore, they do not miss the opportunity to “confirm” the vainness of their existence in an accessible way.
Common scenario
For example, a person decided to honestly earn money with his mind. I wrote a program and began to sell it. To sell something, you first need to tell people about it.
A man took, and wrote about his program, say, on some forum or on “Habr”. And openly, and not doing "hidden marketing".
And then a smelly losier runs up:
- It's a peer! (The loser does not even suspect what PR, public relations is, he just heard this word in a negative context from another loser).
“Fuu, I thought it was free.” Yes, in my life I won’t put this shit for myself (And then he goes looking for a crack, yeah).
In order to be superior to others, there are two ways. You can rise yourself, or you can humiliate another.
The first path involves work, creation, overcoming obstacles. Including yelling, sabotage and the "minuses" of the loser.
The second is a cheap way to feel “no worse” than someone. To humiliate an arrogant person, to finely spoil - the only opportunity a loser can assert himself.
Why a loser is not a loser
It is very likely that losers will also comment. As usual, they don’t finish to the end - they rush as soon as possible to make their epic vyser. Let's see how many will be outraged by the word "loser."
By the way, I also do not like "Americanisms", but there is no adequate replacement for the word "loser" in Russian. The word "loser" does not fit - loserism has nothing to do with luck.
Except for the main setback in their life. They were not lucky with those who raised them.
Failures and mistakes pursue the creators even more - they accompany any practical activity.
Step through the losers. Put in place. If you are an employer, do not let them go into herds and poison more active employees.
In fairness, I must note the opposite phenomenon. A lot of gangsters from the 90s who solved competition issues with a pistol later explained their claims to be “envy of a successful person”. Especially a lot of these in the raw materials and construction industries.
A very good link to the topic came up in the comments : www.kulichki.com/vv/pesni/sideli-pili-vraznoboj-maderu.html