November 27, 2007 at 02:06Silent agreement
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Imagine that your child is playing pranks right before your eyes, and you are silent. Or imagine that you control people at work and notice that one of your subordinates makes a serious mistake, and you don’t move a finger to point him or her to this. This is tacit agreement.
It is clear that when using tacit consent to reinforce the negative results of other people's actions, problems arise. But even worse, if you use the tacit consent in relation to yourself.
Which of the problems in life do you often encounter, and, instead of consciously working with them, turn away from them? Maybe you have a low level of energy due to the fact that you did not exercise and did not eat well. Perhaps your relationship with your family is not what you would like. Maybe your career is completely collapsing. When you use tacit agreement with yourself, you tell your subconscious that your current performance standards are acceptable. Well, don’t be surprised if you continue to get the same results year after year.
If you want to change the results you get, you cannot use tacit consent. You must set new standards for yourself. And when you notice that your new standards are being violated, you must bring this to awareness. Tear up your old tacit agreement pattern - noisy disagreement! If you caught yourself overeating, say out loud: “You pig! What the hell are you doing? ”Or, if it’s not your style, then try a milder approach, for example,“ This is not mine. I know a lesson than this. I'd rather go for a walk. ” Instead of remaining silent, speak out loud. Let your disapproval be heard loud and clear. Let your subconscious know that you need his help in finding another way to satisfy your needs, because the current approach is completely wrong.
Silent consent is one of fear's best friends. Silent consent is a coward’s way of hiding from the truth. Sometimes it is painful to face the truth. This is normal. With mild pain that occurs from time to time, you can cope. Just do not leave awareness.
Silent consent makes solving your problems impossible. You cannot solve a problem whose existence you refuse to acknowledge. And no matter what level it is - personal, family, team, corporate or global. If you want to solve it, you must first pull it into the light of conscious knowledge, and with blows and screams, if necessary. Then you finally have a chance to solve it. And even if such problems cannot be resolved, at least there will be an opportunity to accept them. Informed acceptance is always better than tacit consent.
Original: Self-development for smart people
It is clear that when using tacit consent to reinforce the negative results of other people's actions, problems arise. But even worse, if you use the tacit consent in relation to yourself.
Which of the problems in life do you often encounter, and, instead of consciously working with them, turn away from them? Maybe you have a low level of energy due to the fact that you did not exercise and did not eat well. Perhaps your relationship with your family is not what you would like. Maybe your career is completely collapsing. When you use tacit agreement with yourself, you tell your subconscious that your current performance standards are acceptable. Well, don’t be surprised if you continue to get the same results year after year.
If you want to change the results you get, you cannot use tacit consent. You must set new standards for yourself. And when you notice that your new standards are being violated, you must bring this to awareness. Tear up your old tacit agreement pattern - noisy disagreement! If you caught yourself overeating, say out loud: “You pig! What the hell are you doing? ”Or, if it’s not your style, then try a milder approach, for example,“ This is not mine. I know a lesson than this. I'd rather go for a walk. ” Instead of remaining silent, speak out loud. Let your disapproval be heard loud and clear. Let your subconscious know that you need his help in finding another way to satisfy your needs, because the current approach is completely wrong.
Silent consent is one of fear's best friends. Silent consent is a coward’s way of hiding from the truth. Sometimes it is painful to face the truth. This is normal. With mild pain that occurs from time to time, you can cope. Just do not leave awareness.
Silent consent makes solving your problems impossible. You cannot solve a problem whose existence you refuse to acknowledge. And no matter what level it is - personal, family, team, corporate or global. If you want to solve it, you must first pull it into the light of conscious knowledge, and with blows and screams, if necessary. Then you finally have a chance to solve it. And even if such problems cannot be resolved, at least there will be an opportunity to accept them. Informed acceptance is always better than tacit consent.
Original: Self-development for smart people