10 mistakes we unknowingly make using body language

Original author: Steven Aitchison
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First impression and non-verbal signals are of great importance. Sometimes we do not even have time to understand the meaning of our words or actions until it is too late to change something. Was it that you said terrible stupidity and dreamed of swallowing your words at the very moment when they fell off the tongue ? Surely! You are not the only one with whom such stories have occurred. We all make such mistakes. So, which of them do we admit without even knowing about it?

1. Weak handshake


It is the leader of the list, because as we know, a strong handshake, accompanied by a direct look in your eyes, is a clear sign of trust and honesty, a demonstration of your responsiveness and sincerity. All those traits that we seek in those around us .

Shake your hand out weakly, and you will immediately lose a person. Be careful. Never make such a mistake.

2. Looking to the side during a conversation


People like when you look at them during a conversation. Not through them, not around and not behind their backs. They crave your undivided attention.

Take them to him, and they will instantly feel that communication with them no longer attracts you. This is a vivid demonstration of lack of interest.

3. Crossed arms


It is a gesture of removal or rejection that keeps others at a distance. If this is not what you are trying to achieve, be sure to immediately catch yourself on it and lower your hands.

Moreover, such a pose betrays a somewhat arrogant attitude. Nobody likes this feature either.

4. Fussiness


These are nervous gestures that speak of anxiety and lack of self-confidence. They demonstrate that you are uncomfortable, anxious or stressed. And this behavior is very distracting.

Try to realize it. You can put your hands in your pockets. If you are experiencing severe stress or anxiety, you should certainly learn to control your movements and stop bouts of fussiness.

5. Heavy gaze


Staring someone directly in the eye during a conversation is normal. But to do this with almost manic perseverance is completely wrong. Such behavior causes discomfort in people and is actually a sign of aggression.

Soften your gaze. It is possible to stare intently, for a long time, continuously into the eyes only to the partner at moments of intimacy.

6. Nodding


A nod in agreement is a good gesture, but if you resemble a Chinese blank, then this is already a problem. This is annoying.

One or two nods are enough for your interlocutor to make sure that you understand and agree with him. Continuing to repeat this gesture, you demonstrate weakness. Nod infinitely makes a need, desire, almost a need to like.

7. Use of chewing gum


Chew her on the way to a meeting or event, and when you get to the place, get rid of her. There is nothing worse than listening to someone trying to talk with chewing gum in their mouths.


However, it’s even more disgusting to communicate with someone who chews the gum and clicks it. Remove the chewing gum from the mouth before entering the room.

8. Vigorous gestures


We got it. The fish was very large. And the house was extremely spacious. If you are gesturing excessively energetically, people will bypass you.


This behavior is annoying and annoying. If you need to revive your story, you can gesticulate more modestly, and at the same time you will still be able to convey your point of view. Give it a try.

9. Tapping with a foot or tapping with your fingers


I’m talking about a situation where the whole table at which you are sitting is shaking, or the whole chair in which you are sitting.

This is probably nothing more than just a little nervous habit that accompanies you throughout your conscious life. But how annoying she is! Stop it!

10. Constantly looking at the watch


You hurry? Are you late? Do you need to go somewhere else? If you answered no to all three questions, stop looking at your watch. It is not polite.

People will decide that you have more enjoyable things to do than communicate with them. Do not wear a watch if you cannot do anything with yourself.

These are just a few of the things we do without realizing the impact they have on other people. Talking with someone the next time, follow your body language, and you will understand if you are using any gestures from the list below. If so, try to keep them in check.

PS We recommend another useful article on the topic of self-development: What to do if you are always underestimated .

The author of the translation is Vyacheslav Davidenko, founder of TESTutor.

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