Do I need to cultivate willpower

    or why I do not want to be an Indian?

    Everyone knows that real Indians do not cry. Because they have a strong will and a strong character. Captive guerrillas, conquerors of Everest and General Karbyshev also have strong wills. But this is all extreme. What about ordinary life?When I was little, my ears just buzzed that strong will is an inalienable attribute of a real man. Strong will means that if you decide to do something difficult or unpleasant, you will definitely do it. For example, he said that you will not smoke or smoke. Or instead of playing football, you’ll learn lessons all day. And whoever cannot do this is a slobber and a rag. But one day I grew up and realized that I was not destined to be an Indian. I can’t force myself to do all this garbage. It seems to be necessary, but it does not work out. There is no soul in the apartment to clean up - he hired a housekeeper. I don’t want to study English with my child (teaching at school sucks) - the child goes to a tutor. And the child is satisfied and the tutor, and how pleased I am - can not be retold. Solid win - win. And I thought, maybe this is not laziness and not weakness, it’s just that the subconscious mind tells you that you don’t have to do all this, you don’t have to go to the result by raping your nerves and throwing your body at the embrasure. Maybe it’s necessary not to overcome obstacles, but simply to remove them from my path? How many times have I forced myself to do something - it always turned out garbage. Now I do so. When I don’t feel like something, I sit down and write what I think about this, literally everything that comes to mind. Sometimes I start to laugh after a couple of minutes. Stubbornness, children's fears, insults do not allow to do something good and necessary. Laugh and go do it. This is a simple option, but more often it happens, for example, like this: I love my daughter and I love English, but it does not work to combine the unpleasant with the useless. We don’t get any zysiz zytable. Why do I start to get angry and scream, if nothing threatens me? The whole sheet was scribbled and came to a paradoxical conclusion. It even became embarrassing at first. The conclusion is this: I do not need it. Personally, I do not need to study English with my child. For me, this makes no sense, but that she knew the English sense. Therefore, I found a tutor. And I’ll tell my daughter better about Bruce Springsteen. But I don’t listen to Dima Bilan all the time. Due to the fact that I do not participate in the hostilities and do not go around the Everests, it turned out that I did not need willpower and there was no reason to force me. And, in general, over the years you begin to understand that old wisdom that everything needs to be done easily and joyfully. Easy - does not mean without labor, costs and stress. It should be easy on the heart. Because you do what you want, and not something that you don’t understand to anyone. As far as willpower, you still need to educate it. And then suddenly a war

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