4 easy ways to solve the most difficult situations in life
To feel complete happiness, each person needs something different. But everyone thought about how to work more efficiently, deal with dilemmas and remember as much useful information as possible . The tips given in the article will help to solve precisely these problems.
How to work more efficiently?
Use the Eisenhower Matrix.
US President Eisenhower is believed to have once said: “Urgent decisions are rarely the most important”; at the same time, he was considered a master of time management , did everything when needed, and as needed. With Eisenhower’s method, you will learn to separate concepts such as “important” and “urgent”. Divide any work into urgent and important tasks, and only then proceed with the implementation. We often focus on “important and urgent” matters, those that need to be done immediately. Ask yourself: “When will I do important, but not urgent things?” When will I take on important tasks before they become urgent? ” This is an area for strategic, long-term solutions.
How to be happy?
Try the streaming model.
More than 1,000 respondents took part in a survey conducted by Chiksentmihayli. He was interested in what brings people a sense of happiness . Summing up, he noticed that in all the answers there were 5 similar points. Happiness, or “state of flow,” appears when we:
- maximally focused on activities
- chosen by us which
- is neither too simple (boring) nor too complex, and which has
- a clear goal, and which gives
- immediate return.
Chiksentmihayli discovered that people who are "in the stream" not only experience a deep sense of satisfaction, but also lose track of time, completely forgetting about themselves, because they are completely absorbed in their occupation. Musicians, actors, athletes, artists and doctors say that they are happiest when they are completely absorbed in business (often - really exhausting). This fundamentally contradicts the widespread view that happiness is supposedly associated with relaxation.
How to remember everything that you have learned?
Use the Supermemo model.
Let's say you learn Chinese. So you learned a new word and remember it. Without practice, over time, it will be increasingly difficult to remember. You can even calculate how long you will forget it completely, and ideally you should be reminded of it just when the word is about to be erased from memory. The more often you will be reminded of a word, the more likely it is that you will remember it for a long time.
This training program is called SuperMemo and was developed by Polish researcher Petr Wozniak. Having learned something, you need to remind yourself of it at the following time intervals: after 1 day, after 10 days, after a month and two months.
How to cope with a dilemma?
Use the “Rubber Band Model”.
Are you familiar with this situation? A friend, colleague or client needs to make a decision that can irrevocably change his life: for example, a career change, moving to another city or early retirement. The arguments for and against are equal. How can you help a person with his dilemma?
Invite him to answer these questions:
- “What keeps me from this decision?”
- “What drives me to this decision?”
At first glance, the method seems to be a simple variation of the usual question of what are the pros and cons. The difference is: “What is holding me back?” and "What pushes me?" - Positive issues that consider the situation from two alternative and attractive sides.
PS We recommend another article that will help you make effective decisions - “5 main mistakes or why your rational decisions do not work?”.
The author of the translation is Vyacheslav Davidenko, founder of MBA Consult .