Freedom or fear. Make your choice
Today on habr for me the entertaining mix from articles turned out - wolf everyday life and effect of a butterfly . It seems like different such articles, but both hooked, forced to think. And at first I could not gather my thoughts together and understand what unites these seemingly different articles. And after a while it dawned on me - freedom of expression.
This is a very important factor in the life of every person. This is precisely what we lack - we are always afraid of something - that there will not be enough money, that friends will not support, that society will condemn. We live according to the laws set by the majority, and we cannot become ourselves, because we are afraid of this mass - this majority.
Two thoughts inspired by different articles - one about the fear of condemnation by the majority, the other - about what you need to try, take risks, change your life and be successful, because you find your freedom, one that is comfortable for you and the whole. And everyone had these two thoughts, but not everyone tried to listen to them and accept them as a guide to action. We do not do trifles and great achievements, because we are guided by the fear of condemnation, we cannot get our personal cherished freedom of expression.
I remember how I myself was afraid to write in a habr - it always seemed to me that there are evil bearded men who will definitely tell me, a student girl, that I am wrong or write obvious things. My boss argued with a colleague that he would be in the forefront of the rating and achieved this. But he was 26, and I was only 21, and besides, he is a candidate of technical sciences - his opinion is authoritative. Of course, he was in the top ten, but I realized that I had nothing to meditate on.
I remember how I studied at the institute - they dreamed of their own business and understood that these were just dreams. It’s very difficult to make money on your own business, and credit is a long-term bondage. That we are so smart and talented that we will always work for an uncle, because first you need to get dressed, buy a car - and then the family is on the way, children, you need to work and earn money on them, and not risk and start your own business.
And that’s all. Dreams crashed on harsh everyday life. My account was not created, although there were invites from friends, I worked for the boss and seemed to be happy. Nearly. But something undermined me, I wanted to do and create, I wanted creative freedom, freedom of expression. I looked around and saw companies that earned hundreds of thousands, although they were recently opened, I saw young designers, photographers - who chose their path. It was on the one hand. On the other hand, there were parents who insisted on working at a bank, friends who complained about a salary of 10-15 thousand and dreamed about a mortgage. It all came together in one line of my rails and I realized - you need to take your step. One, quick and risky - to quit everything, to open a business - everything happened within a month. And nothing - the earth did not stop, poverty did not come, the world did not collapse and remained the same. Nothing has changed but my sense of self - my freedom.
This is not an easy choice - we want less problems, but we have more than enough wishes. It is much easier to say that the world is imperfect, and forget about your aspirations. Why do we remember students as the most fun and carefree time in our lives. Because then it seemed to us that everything would definitely work out for us, that all the doors were open. But nothing has changed since then, our attitude has changed. We are afraid of society, and yet most of those whom we are so afraid of are only seemingly scary or experts or something. Most simply create an image, look - and nothing more behind it. And let them ridicule, let them scold or try to offend - it will only prove that you are remembered that you have something that others do not have, since you cause such attention. Anyway - what do you care about someone whom you do not even know. And friends and relatives - they want to protect you from defeat, and thereby inflame your fear. But most of them have never tried and will not try to start their own business, and will continue to complain about low salaries and poor leadership. They, like you, are afraid to take risks, increasing your fear with their own. Trying to change your life is an important attempt. It can be different - move to Moscow, open your own business, learn a new profession, start an independent life, or just write an article on Habr. This attempt is important in that it will allow you to take a fresh look at the situation, try yourself in a new role and free yourself from imposed stereotypes. And this is already very important. and so it will continue to complain about low salaries and poor leadership. They, like you, are afraid to take risks, increasing your fear with their own. Trying to change your life is an important attempt. It can be different - move to Moscow, open your own business, learn a new profession, start an independent life, or just write an article on Habr. This attempt is important in that it will allow you to take a fresh look at the situation, try yourself in a new role and free yourself from imposed stereotypes. And this is already very important. and so it will continue to complain about low salaries and poor leadership. They, like you, are afraid to take risks, increasing your fear with their own. Trying to change your life is an important attempt. It can be different - move to Moscow, open your own business, learn a new profession, start an independent life, or just write an article on Habr. This attempt is important in that it will allow you to take a fresh look at the situation, try yourself in a new role and free yourself from imposed stereotypes. And this is already very important. try yourself in a new role and get rid of imposed stereotypes. And this is already very important. try yourself in a new role and get rid of imposed stereotypes. And this is already very important.
This is a very important factor in the life of every person. This is precisely what we lack - we are always afraid of something - that there will not be enough money, that friends will not support, that society will condemn. We live according to the laws set by the majority, and we cannot become ourselves, because we are afraid of this mass - this majority.
Two thoughts inspired by different articles - one about the fear of condemnation by the majority, the other - about what you need to try, take risks, change your life and be successful, because you find your freedom, one that is comfortable for you and the whole. And everyone had these two thoughts, but not everyone tried to listen to them and accept them as a guide to action. We do not do trifles and great achievements, because we are guided by the fear of condemnation, we cannot get our personal cherished freedom of expression.
I remember how I myself was afraid to write in a habr - it always seemed to me that there are evil bearded men who will definitely tell me, a student girl, that I am wrong or write obvious things. My boss argued with a colleague that he would be in the forefront of the rating and achieved this. But he was 26, and I was only 21, and besides, he is a candidate of technical sciences - his opinion is authoritative. Of course, he was in the top ten, but I realized that I had nothing to meditate on.
I remember how I studied at the institute - they dreamed of their own business and understood that these were just dreams. It’s very difficult to make money on your own business, and credit is a long-term bondage. That we are so smart and talented that we will always work for an uncle, because first you need to get dressed, buy a car - and then the family is on the way, children, you need to work and earn money on them, and not risk and start your own business.
And that’s all. Dreams crashed on harsh everyday life. My account was not created, although there were invites from friends, I worked for the boss and seemed to be happy. Nearly. But something undermined me, I wanted to do and create, I wanted creative freedom, freedom of expression. I looked around and saw companies that earned hundreds of thousands, although they were recently opened, I saw young designers, photographers - who chose their path. It was on the one hand. On the other hand, there were parents who insisted on working at a bank, friends who complained about a salary of 10-15 thousand and dreamed about a mortgage. It all came together in one line of my rails and I realized - you need to take your step. One, quick and risky - to quit everything, to open a business - everything happened within a month. And nothing - the earth did not stop, poverty did not come, the world did not collapse and remained the same. Nothing has changed but my sense of self - my freedom.
This is not an easy choice - we want less problems, but we have more than enough wishes. It is much easier to say that the world is imperfect, and forget about your aspirations. Why do we remember students as the most fun and carefree time in our lives. Because then it seemed to us that everything would definitely work out for us, that all the doors were open. But nothing has changed since then, our attitude has changed. We are afraid of society, and yet most of those whom we are so afraid of are only seemingly scary or experts or something. Most simply create an image, look - and nothing more behind it. And let them ridicule, let them scold or try to offend - it will only prove that you are remembered that you have something that others do not have, since you cause such attention. Anyway - what do you care about someone whom you do not even know. And friends and relatives - they want to protect you from defeat, and thereby inflame your fear. But most of them have never tried and will not try to start their own business, and will continue to complain about low salaries and poor leadership. They, like you, are afraid to take risks, increasing your fear with their own. Trying to change your life is an important attempt. It can be different - move to Moscow, open your own business, learn a new profession, start an independent life, or just write an article on Habr. This attempt is important in that it will allow you to take a fresh look at the situation, try yourself in a new role and free yourself from imposed stereotypes. And this is already very important. and so it will continue to complain about low salaries and poor leadership. They, like you, are afraid to take risks, increasing your fear with their own. Trying to change your life is an important attempt. It can be different - move to Moscow, open your own business, learn a new profession, start an independent life, or just write an article on Habr. This attempt is important in that it will allow you to take a fresh look at the situation, try yourself in a new role and free yourself from imposed stereotypes. And this is already very important. and so it will continue to complain about low salaries and poor leadership. They, like you, are afraid to take risks, increasing your fear with their own. Trying to change your life is an important attempt. It can be different - move to Moscow, open your own business, learn a new profession, start an independent life, or just write an article on Habr. This attempt is important in that it will allow you to take a fresh look at the situation, try yourself in a new role and free yourself from imposed stereotypes. And this is already very important. try yourself in a new role and get rid of imposed stereotypes. And this is already very important. try yourself in a new role and get rid of imposed stereotypes. And this is already very important.